The problem is that we're trying to hard to work for our own advantage. If we work honestly and truly for God, He will accomplish things in our lives we never could have dreamed possible. Doing things only for ourselves promotes selfishness, paranoia, and worrying, that are all avoidable. It is much better that we come to him, all of us that labour and are burdened, and Jesus will refresh us all. For his yoke is sweet and his burden light.
I personally have sought what I thought I was missing, what I thought God wanted me to find, and ended up wasting my time, ending up tired, confused, and wondering what had happened. I believe He wants me to concentrate on things that will really shape my future, like school and extra curriculars, and actually having meaningful relationships with people I can call friends, and working on my family life. This is better than searching for the lost love I wish I could have, because that's something He will give to me, if it is His will, when I am truly ready for it. So all this shooting really ends up causing a lot of fall out.
But I think there's a simple solution. Don't shoot yet. Wait for the Sun to come out, so you can see what you're doing, and then the path will be straight. In the light of God's love, things will become a bit clearer. And He works "not in our ways", so we might have to wait a little while, but everything will turn out better. It seems better now, to not shoot for the moon, but to ready the gunpowder for the sunlight's gentle touch, and wait for the explosion of a lifetime.